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Make this day the first day of the rest o your life where you actively choose to really good to yourself,

So it is the 1^st of February and I am wondering how many of you have already quit on your New Year Resolutions?

You will remember that I refer to them as ‘re-solutions’ mainly because people are saying the same thing each New Year, I will exercise more, I will eat less, stop smoking etc.

So how many of you are you read the statement above recognise yourself?  Well here is the thing you do not have to be guilt ridden and view yourself as having failed yet again, you could simply say right here right now – I am going to take action that sees me sticking to what I said I was going to give up, take up, go and do.

Set yourself a ‘can do’ frame, be nice to yourself and you might be surprised at how much easier it will be to get back up and start again.  One of the things I decided to do in 2012 was to be as nice to myself, as most of my friends are to me.  If I treat myself in the same way then I know I will always have my best interests at heart.

So right here, right now take a moment and simply remind yourself how special you are.  We are all unique; we all have something to share with the world.  It is time to let your own light shine, let the joy, love and laughter come through and quite simply lighten up on yourself.

To that end in about 1 hour’s time I am off to a Zumba class, the combination of movement and fantastic music causes a rush of happy brain chemicals!  What have you done today to alter your own brain chemistry in a natural way?  Taking exercise, dancing, laughing going for a walk on a gorgeous wintery day will help deliver some fabulous cocktails of your own free ‘happy drugs’.

Make this day the first day of the rest of your life where you actively choose to really be good to yourself.

When we are acting from a place where our physiology and psychology are in a place of excellence we can only ever be good to ourselves.

We have had the season to be jolly now we have the season of ‘oh bugger’ I should lose weight, stop drinking, exercise more and and and and and……..all the ‘shoulds’ most of us won’t do.

Now here is the thing most of us are actually repeating the same ‘re-solutions’ that we have said before.  You will notice that I split it down to ‘re-solution’ now that is quite simply we already have the solution and always have had it.  We just chose to ignore it, or not make it important enough to take action.

So get clear on what it is that you want, not what you don’t want.

So state your ‘re-solutions’ in positives

So I want to become healthier – now this could mean weigh, less, exercise more, eat better food.

Now when we say I want to become healthier the neurological and physiological reaction generated is far more positive and of course it is easier to generate action form a positive state.

So your opportunity this 2012 is to be more of who you can be and the paradox of that for many of you will be that there will be less of you – if you’re not clear on what I am saying here I am talking to those of you who want to weigh less.

If you want some help along the way then check out my Facebook page http://bit.ly/janishough where you will find a FREE video series of tips to help you be who you chose to be.

So yesterday I started my juice detox, it is for 7 days.

So why do it? Because I owe my body the opportunity to be more healthy and more energised. Quite simply my mind and body work better when I am kind to myself and put in fuel that works for me.

Last week I spent 2 days working with clients on what I call ‘waist’ management and of course that got me to thinking it was time for me to detox my body so that it can catch up with mind.

A mind body detox is a perfect combination, let’s face it when the mind is clear the body feels better and vice versa, equally if the mind is full of toxicity then so is the body.

So today I am feeling the results of not having had a coffee.

So my poor brain is having it’s normal brain chemistry messed with, and I have a lingering headache.

So here is a little bit about what my normal cup of morning coffee does for me.

To a nerve cell, caffeine looks like adenosine. Now without getting too complex adenosine generally makes us feel tired. The caffeine binds to the adenosine receptor. However, it doesn’t slow down the cell’s activity like adenosine would. So basically the cell can no longer identify with adenosine because caffeine is taking up all the receptors that adenosine would normally bind to. Crucially instead of slowing down because of the adenosine’s effect, the nerve cells speed up. Caffeine also causes the brain’s blood vessels to constrict, because it blocks adenosine’s ability to open them up.

So, now you have increased neurons firing in the brain. The pituitary gland sees all of this activity and thinks some sort of emergency must be occurring, so it releases hormones that tell the adrenal glands to produce adrenaline. So the adrenaline rush gets my heart beating faster, increases blood flow to muscles, blood pressure rises, to mention just a few. Do any of them sound like a good thing?

Bloody hell all this from a cup of coffee, yet here is the thing as I read back what I have just written I am thinking why the hell would I do that, yet still a little bit of me is saying how much I like a good cup of coffee!!!

So on day two I am going to make a conscious effort to treat my brain chemistry to some good brain frequencies so to that end I shall be going on the mindspa and also doing some more exercise.

I owe it to myself to create brain chemistry that is good for me.

What do you owe yourself a cup of coffee or some fresh air and exercise?

“We are all visitors to this time, this place. We are just passing through. Our purpose here is to observe, to learn, to grow, to love… and then we return home.” – Australian Aboriginal Proverb

This week has been a week of love, light, laughter and sparkle as one of my nieces got married.  So the day was perfect as it had the whole mix of smiles, laughter happiness, and joy and let us not forget the tears!

Now for me there were the tears of joy at seeing all my family together looking gorgeous, then the tears at seeing my niece looking so beautiful.  Then tears whilst vows were made, tears whilst moving poems and readings were had, tears whilst speeches made.  All of the tears were intermingled with smiles, laughter and feelings of absolute joy and love.

So if we are just visitors here how do we want it to be – well I want it to be like the day I just described.  It had all the right ingredients that make life a full and rich experience.  It got me to thinking that I am going to make more of an effort to have those exact ingredients in every day, maybe a few less tears.  Yet actually just like the quote I read the other day, if you were moved to tears every day through either sadness or happiness and we smiled lots and laughed lots that to me would be a pretty magical day.

So if you had an unexpected visitor from another galaxy coming to check you out here on earth to see how you live – would he/she want to stay based on the experience that you showed them whilst they were with you?  Would you show them, love, laughter, joy, passion, humility and all those other emotions, that if we went through them each day we would actually be living a ‘full’ life in a truly connected way.

So how much do you observe each day that gives you purpose and what if the purpose was simply to be here now and laugh, love, cry, grow, share and be fully present sharing all of those emotions with everyone that you connected with every day.

What an amazing way to be. I wonder then that the visitor from the other galaxy might think ‘wow’ what a cool place to be ‘I think I will extend my visit’.

So are you living your life in a way that if a visitor shows up to spend time with you they think, yeah cool I shall stay here and hang out for a while, or would they get the hell out and back to there galaxy.

If you know they would get the hell out, because that is the way that you feel about your life, then now would be a great time to start to re-write your visit here, I mean after all you get to write your own time here so make it count. Look for opportunities everyday to get a sensory rich experience that quite simply reminds you why you are here and what you have to share with others.

So as my niece Sarah and her husband Andy start their new journey together I wish them all the joy, laughter and happiness and all I ask is that they share that love and laughter with all who they meet, because we can never have to much love and laughter can we?

I have been really busy the last 2 months with new clients and also 12 days in the states re-learning and consolidating what I know.  We all need to take time out to review and check where we are.

So just as I encourage my clients to be open to new ideas and new ways of being I follow my own advice and it was good to submerge myself in a place of learning.  Here’s the thing I owe it to myself to take time out so that when I am with clients they get my A-game.

Whoever we are whatever we know there is always more so the blogs that I will be posting in the future will be about sharing more of the knowledge that I have gained and how I work with clients to enable them to lead better lives.

I will also be posting exercises and techniques that can easily be incorporated in to your daily lives so that you too can start to lead a better life easily.

So watch out for my blog posts and if you have something you want me to write about then drop me an email to janis@janishough.com